Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Parenting

Some days I feel like I am a cold hearted bitch of a mother and thats the truth, the god honest truth!!! This parenting gig is the freakin hardest job I have ever undertaken!!! Why isn't there a degree in this sort of thing? Why don't I carry some inner depth knowledge handed down from my ancestors on how to raise kids that are at least "road worthy" for the world? Why on earth do these beautiful little people push buttons you don't even know you HAVE????!!!



See this ted....he is getting a huge squeeze because his owner cannot go to kinda today and play with her friends and she is not allowed to have a DVD on because she needs some "down time" to wind down from the tanty from HELL! I am sure I did not give birth to a baby that was POSSESSED!!!

So lessen for today is......"When one is upset or mildly unhappy with there situation, we do not run and hide under our bed and scream the house down, we do not sulk for long periods of time because we have not got our own way, we come and talk to our parents about what the issue is and IF one of the said parents wishes to say NO then "chucking a tanty" is unacceptable!!!!!!"

I'm not a religious person...but Geeezzz I'm-a-asking for strength today!!

21 comments:

Little Ted Canvas said...

Oh boy I hear you! We had two MASSIVE tantrums the last two days, god it's hard yakka, but at least hubby was home for one of them & managed it a whole lot better than I might have. The little guys motto is 'fight to the death' not that it EVER gets him what he wants in the end...take time to be kind to yourself today, goodness knows you deserve it!

Andi said...

Damn its a hard bloody job.
We all muddle through best we can.
Seems to me you're muddling through beautifully!!!

Sue said...

Yes wouldnt it be nice to get a degree for child raising, although I think everyone has a different test! My daughter seems to know which button to push everytime and still has tantrums when she cant get her own way! I am sure your doing a fantastic job!!

Kerry said...

Hardest job in the world. But we muddle through, and actually, despite our own failings (lots over here!) they turn out really well. Promise :)

Cath @ chunkychooky said...

I couldn't agree more with the " they push buttons i didn't know i had"... and I might add they make you feel like you are completely irrational.
When i give in for the sake of a bit of peace/sanity I think to myself SHEER BLOODY HARRASSMENT HAS WON AGAIN!!!!

willywagtail said...

All I can say is that both you and she will be happy sometime in the future that you had the strength to be a mean parent. Every time you let it go now will be paid for a hundredfold in the future - either way actually. So hats off to all the mean parents. Cherrie

Taylormade said...

Well said !!! I hear's ya!

kello said...

Hey Must be the time for it - George chucked a ripper yesterday - remember those nights years ago of tough love and time out, time out in the vegie section at the supermarket, time out where ever we were- Its all just part of testing the boundaries -buckle up its gonna be a long ride- I am dreading the teenage years but with a united front with the fav and guldie we might just make it through alive - a few extra greys but alive! Sending you a big hug and a whole lotta love- talk soon.XX

zofia said...

Oh Leonie. I so hear you.
I send strength!

Sally said...

You're not alone... and you can do it.

Perhaps you two can take a walk together - fresh air is always good for clearing the cob webs and a new start... although perhaps it is raining in your part of the world. Mmm. A rain dance???

Lets face it... none of us have the answers so you just have to fake it to you make it. Good luck... and remember YOU can do IT!

Melanie said...

Oh I am right there with you! My darling most wonderful daughter, who did not go through the terrible twos, and was mostly delightful through three as well, turned into hellspawn once she hit four. I am at a complete loss some days!

Angie said...

If we did the degree we would likely never then have the kids!

It IS the hardest gig going, but sometimes after a big tanty at our place we have a cooling off period (for everyone) & then try to not go over it to many times or it seems to bring on more of the same.

Hope you found a bit of extra strength today....because sometimes we need that bit extra (usually right at the very moment we just don't have ANY extra)

katiecrackernuts said...

Hold ya ground sista, apparently they need us to, so they know what they're standing on is solid and stable.

Cat J B said...

Oh my goodness, this could SOOO be me sometimes! Now whether it's the 5 yr old, 2 yr old or the hubby throwing the tanty.....that's up for grabs!

judysquiltsandthings said...

<> God, I am glad my baby is 18! Can I fix you a cup of tea? Here's another <>

I use to make the oldest one take a nap when she was having trouble being part of the world and while she was a sleep I took one too. It helped me as much as it helped her. Might be worth a try.

judysquiltsandthings said...

Okay, my comment didn't post right! Inside the brackets<> are 'hugs' cause you need some! Being a good mother is the toughest thing any of us will ever do. Hang in there and here are some more 'hugs'. Judy

m.e (Cathie) said...

you definitely need a cuppa!
ohh, they know how to push those buttons don't they.
you are doing just fine, they do it to ALL of us, it's just what they do.
i bet you are cuddling her & smiling right about now & forgotten all about theat "possessed child"
hugs ♥

Nikki said...

Yep. Yep. Yep...... I hear ya. I know EXACTLY how you feel.

Strength to all of us....!!

the textured leaf said...

Hey if you can put it into words then youre still relatively sane and strong. Arent you?

Amy Paul said...

the shits. that's what it is.

I don't know how my stars have aligned, but somehow I've just scored the day without one of my 3 hellions, husband, or WWoofer - they've gone to the prom.

HURRAH!

I hope I'll find that calm serenity that comes after a day of gardening and doing WHATEVER I want to do - without 3 beasts beating me down with tantys, sooking, fighting, and feeding.

I guess in the end, we can always remember -- this too shall pass!

Until then, be the parent, not the child and restore order to your home!! :) Good luck.

xx

Megan.K. said...

Yep.
Nodding head to every word Leonie.
xo