Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Don't Forget.....

The school Bag!!

You know.....I had delusions once. I was delusional to think that being a stay at home parent would easy. It's not. Plain and simple...it's not.



This is not about forgetting the school bag...we all have days like that. It's about getting real.

I was recently asked "So Leonie....what do you do during the day?"......

This has really made me think. As I sit here with the washing machine beeping away in the background, begging for me to unload it, the dishes piled to the ceiling and the beds in urgent need of stripping.....what do I do? The answer is EVERYTHING!!! and some people JUST DON"T GET IT!!!

Can that stop now? Can the world realize that kids need parents. Kids need parents that juggle everything. Wether they be working or staying at home. A parents job is just BIG and it's loaded up with mountain's of moments that seem inconsequential. BUT THEY ARE NOT....they are IMPORTANT.

I'm up for the job...don't get me wrong......I just wish that "Domestic Engineering" was recognized as a valid life long career and one that, although I find hard at times, is rewarding and chosen.

Leonie xx

12 comments:

Sarah said...

HEAR HEAR!!!!! I am so with you girl.

Anonymous said...

Yes its juggle juggle juggle whether you work or not! I've done both (work now kids are grown!) regardless theres NEVER enough hours! Only 6 hrs while they're at school! More time now to me that they are teens but less because of work! Just gotta go with it and enjoy each day as comes! Jo

Michelle said...

Urgh. People are so damn ignorant. I'm not even a mum, but when I was at home being a domestic engineer I'd get the stupid "so what do you do all day" question. Drove me nuts. That dishwasher didn't pack itself! And nor did dinner magically appear on the table!

I think you're doing a super important job, being a mum. I wish more people would realise that.

'Joyce' said...

*sigh* I am so over same comment. Let's unite women of the world sick of 'so, what do you do all day?' CEO of this address - der!! Oh how I would love to shout that one out. Maybe I should put it on a t-shirt. Not to mention soccer coach, newsletter editor, parent helper, student, volunteer. (settle, back of neck hackles, settle!). With hubbie that works long hours and doesn't see the children through the week, I do it ALL and then some. We dont have babysitters, (I babysit other kids tho) we don't dump our kids on others.
oh and p.s. right here now, is my lunch break, not that I need to explain myself, but it is.
Sorry for being so 'grrrr' but it gets me cranky when I hear that phrase. Especially when most of the time, its their kid that you are babysitting, coaching, supporting in the classroom!!

Have a lovely week.

Mandy said...

Im a long time lurker and do enjoy reading your blog.

Just yesterday I booked myself in for a parenting course (finally one i can go to that the timing works for and any help ideas I can get can only help) and they asked me what my occupation was? I said "Mum" I was put into the category of "full time parent". I actually asked the lady if there was any other kind? To me its either you are or your not. regardless of paid or unpaid employment.

Kirsty said...

YES YES YES!

Just flaming yes. I'm my own worst enemy too. xx

Andi said...

http://leniandrose.blogspot.com/2010/08/what-do-you-do-all-day.html

Ha ha ha!!!

Catherine said...

I do part time paid work, and for a while there a colleague said "enjoy your long weekend" to me every Wednesday (as she left right on time while I inevitably worked on trying to get everything done in my limited time)... I mean, really, some people just don't get it!!

Kylie said...

Yes. I agree. My husband tells people i am the "director of domestic affairs". Funny to me, others just seem to think that if you don't have an income, you aren't ""working". I wish as mothers we could support each others choices, to work outside of the home or to work at home, raising children. (and yes i do get that women who work outside of the home also bear the brunt of most of the at home working aswell).

Maxabella said...

You are so right. I know it had to happen the way it did to get us where we are today, but feminism really gave mothers and families and households a bum steer. It did no favours to the woman who was content at home doing the mountain of things that she does. It's the most important (and busiest!!!) job in the world. Sigh. x

Maggie said...

I know! I would happily spend 8 hours a day at a "real job" if I had a wife of my own to do every other thing in my life for me! Actually, that's not true, I wouldn't want to miss all of those hours with our wee one, but I tell you what, it would be a damn sight easier.

Doing the dishes isn't hard work, but it takes time, and add that to all the other jobs we do, hanging out the laundry, preparing all the meals, nursing young ones, trying to squeeze in a shower etc and a whole day goes by in the blink of an eye.

Leni and Rose said...

OMG, I soooo hear you. I feel so totally the same way!!!